Using psychological tricks to get your ex back is not as devious as it might sound. We all use psychology during all human interactions on a daily basis whether we realize it or not. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with doing it intentionally. If you have suffered a horrible break up from the love of your life, there are things you can do get them back. In fact, you can actually strengthen your relationship and help protect it from future break ups. Who doesn’t want that?
If you are reading this article, then you are probably already in panic mode because the unthinkable has happened to you.
As difficult as it may seem, the first thing you need to do is step back from the situation and take a look at everything from the outside looking in.
Pretend you are watching a movie with two strangers that happen to be in your relationship. Then make sure this is a healthy relationship that needs to be saved. If children are involved that definitely makes a difference in your decision.
Definitely want him or her? Okay….let’s get started. Some of this information may seem counter intuitive, but believe me, it works.
First of all….You want to gain control of the situation. This is easier than you think. It is possible to literally reel them back to you without them even knowing it. So here’s the psychological tricks to get your ex back.
Don’t sit at home and mope around. And definitely, no matter what, do not stalk your ex. Don’t call, text, email, or follow them. Don’t accidentally show up wherever they are and don’t talk to their friends/family members/co-workers about them. (They will only report back to your ex. And then you will look super needy. That’s not good in case you are wondering.)
Instead, go out and live your life. A busy, confident person is ALWAYS more attractive than a miserable one. This does not mean to find a new person just to rub in their face and make them jealous. That can actually backfire quite often.
Get a new hobby. Make some new friends. Do everything you have been putting off. Many people literally reinvent themselves after a break up and it usually make their ex see them in a new light. It can almost make you seem like a new person, which obviously puts a spark in things.
So if you don’t have a bucket list, make one now and start marking things off.
This plays in with Number 1 above. If they have the impression that you cannot live without them you look pathetic, not like you are showing your undying love. Don’t threaten to kill yourself. That is the oldest trick in the book and it only postpones the break up if it works at all. In the end it will usually lower their opinion of you, which is the opposite of what you are trying to accomplish.
YOU CAN live without them, so let them know it. But do it without being rude. A certain level of indifference is what you are aiming for.
This just complicates things even further and makes you look desperate. Make them wonder why you aren’t interested. It can only help your cause (and clear your head).
If you know your ex is intimately involved with another person, don’t lose your cool. Just decide if you still want them back, then go ahead with your decision. Be sure to stick with it and don’t change your mind constantly.
Do not let them use you in any way. Don’t be a doormat. Over the years I have heard it all and it is amazing what people will tolerate from the ones they love. I know a guy who would wash a girl’s car while she was getting ready to go on dates with OTHER guys! I also know a guy who caught his wife in the parking lot of a hotel with another guy but chose to believe her when she said they were only in the hotel room talking. Get smart, not used.
There are many other psychological tricks to get your ex back and many can be found in this step by step plan called Magic of Making Up. This information is practical and literally guides you through each aspect of what to say and do.
For a specific plan for men to use check out Getting Her Back for Good. This resource was written by Oprah Winfrey expert Michael Webb:
He has also written a resource that’s specific for women called Getting Him Back.
Remember, you want to maintain control of your life and relationship, so keep your cool and think things through before you make any moves.
Now, go get your love back!
by Angela Christian Pope aka Angela Monahan @ ModernRelationship.org